Steven Chan and His China Mistress

Steven Chan, 48 years old, is my colleague who lives in Hong Kong. He joined my company sometime in January this year. During our first trip to Beijing, I introduced my 亲爱的 to him during one of the evening dinners. In fact, almost all my colleagues who have travelled with me to Beijing have met 亲爱的. It's not a secret that I have a China girlfriend.

One evening, I　called him while he was in Beijing. I overheard a baby crying, and jokingly asked him if he is playing "Happy Family" in Beijing. He immediately gave an excuse that it was a friend's child that was crying. Subsequently, I would use this joke on him, that he is a lucky man and have a 2nd family there.

In July this year, we travelled to Beijing together again. We made an appointment to have dinner in a Sichuan restaurant. Then Steven said that he's going to bring a friend along, and ask if we mind. Since we are sociable, we asked Steven to invite his friend along.

When Steven showed up, he was carrying a 6 months old baby girl. He introduced her as his daugther, with a big smile on his face. Well, Steven doesn't have any children in Hong Kong, so it must be a China production. His girlfriend is from Hunan, living in Beijing. It was an accidental pregancy. When they first discovered that she was pregnant, they hesitated whether to keep the baby. Since his girlfriend is already in her late 20s, they decided to keep it. Steven wasn't too positive about having a baby at that time, and thought that it would be a nightmare. I can't blame him. He didn't know the joy of being a father. Since his daughter was born, it was only happiness and excitement for them. Steven said that because of the baby, his relationship with his girlfriend is closer than before. I asked a realistic question: how much allowance is she getting every month? For being a fulltime mother, she receives a monthly allowance of RMB10,000. Since Steven has an apartment in Beijing, she is staying there and there is no rental expenses. How did he answer to her parents? Since her family lives in the countryside, her parents are simple people. He gave them money to refurbish the house, and that has settled the old folks.

Of course Steven's wife doesn't know about it. I don't know how long he is able to keep this secret, but eventually she will find out. Hong Kong women are not stupid, but since it is not uncommon for Hong Kong men to have China mistresses, maybe she will just have to accept the fact.

亲爱的,　after knowing Steven's little secret, was also tempted to have a baby with me. Well, she knows that this thought is immpossible for 2 reasons. First, her parents are not farmers and they would not approve her to do such things, even if I were to give them money. Second, I already have children, so I won't be excited about our baby.

A New Journey

Maria Robinson quotes "Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending."

Two weeks ago, I was in Bangkok with my 亲爱的, and I broke her the news that I am going to quit my current job, and move on to a new job. It is still a regional sales role, except that I won't be covering Greater China region. We may not be able to see each other monthly, but I assured her that we will still see each other　at least 2 months once. She felt sad, and said "听到这个消息，我突然觉得很冷清" Honestly, I don't know if this is going to hurt our relationship, and only time can tell. Anyhow, The new job offers better pay, so I suggested to her if she wants to come over to Singapore to study, and I can support her financially. 亲爱的 said she would need some time to consider, as she needs to seek her parents approval. To lighten up things, I promised her that we will have another rendezvous in Chengdu before I start work. However, I just received an email from my new employer that I need to go for new hire training in October, so there isn't any holiday break for me. Looks like I will have to arrange our Chengdu trip again. I hope she's not going to feel sad when I break her the news.

The Perfect Smile

I have promised my 亲爱的 she's going for teeth whitening treatment in Bangkok for her 23rd birthday. Yesterday, we arrived Bangkok in the morning, and after we checked into the Westin Grande Sukhumvit, immediately we took the sky train to Saladaeng station. Perfect Smile dental clinic is located at the 4th floor of Thaniya BTS Wing building. At the Saladaeng station, the bridge is connected to Thaniya BTS building directly. www.perfectsmilethailand.com



The treatment is called Zoom! First, her teeth needs to be scaled and polished. I can't believe that this is the first time that she's doing that because when she saw the dental instruments, she behaved like a kid and insisted that I shouldn't leave the room. 亲爱的 said she doesn't visit the dentist unless she has a toothache.



After 15 minutes of scaling and polishing, 亲爱的 is ready for Zoom! It looks like her face is blasted with a ball of laser.



The procedure actually goes like this. Her mouth is first covered by a rubber mould to protect her gums and lips, and to ensure that her teeth are exposed at all times. Zoom whitening gel is then placed on her teeth, followed by 15 minutes of zoom light. She did this for 3 times, so the entire process is about 45 minute

Before treatment


After treatment


There is a slight improvement with the color shading. From now on, she's going to show off her white teeth to her friends. Doing Zoom! has side effect. After the treatment is done, she felt painful in her teeth. The tingling sensation lasted for the rest of the day.