People asked me why I trusted my 亲爱的. What if she is also seeing other guys when I'm not in Bejing? Or she has this big plan to con my money, or get me to marry her for a Singapore PR status?
I am probably very lucky to find a PRC girl who is truly genuine. While she can two-time me since I don't live in Beijing, I trust that she's not doing that, because I know her too well. She is like an opened book. She tells me everything; her past, her present, and her future plans. Moreover, our relationship wasn't love at first sight.
We started as friends. It fact, I did not find her attractive in the beginning. She is only 1.59m tall, had permed curly hair, short fingers, and couldn't pronounce her "f" and her "h" properly. She also didn't have any sense of dressing. That year was 2006 when she first came to Beijing to live with he aunt. It took a while before our likings for each other started to develop. She looks so much better now: high heels, straight hair, long finger nails to extend her short fingers, but she still has problem differentiating the pronunciation of f and h.
My 亲爱的 has a descent family background. Her family is not poor. There is no reason for her to con my money. Her dad is doing business, while her mum is a housewife. She has a brother doing his degree course. Her 性格 is the 外向 type, so she prefers to live with her aunt.
My 亲爱的 doesn't spend her money lavishly. Just like any other girls, she likes buying clothes and shoes for herself, maybe one piece a week. She spends very little on cosmetics as she has very smooth and fair skin, and only put on light make-up. She doesn't like jewellery, watches, bags, or expensive meals. The Coach bag that I bought for her is still wrapped inside her cupboard. Obviously she knows that I am just a 打工仔 and won't be able to provide her with luxurious lifestyle.
She knows what our relationship is not a perpetual one. One day, she will need to go back to 成都 to 嫁人. We will probably have another 3 years to go. When she reaches 25, she will quietly go home. She told me that when the day comes, she will become uncontactable, and that will be the end of our relationship. She did not regret loving me because she enjoyed every moment of our time together. She did not shed any tears when she broke off with her first boyfriend. With me, even the thought of breaking up would make her wept.
While her character is 单纯，her circle of friends are sophisticated , especially Lina, who is living in a rented apartment in the same block as my 亲爱的. Lina has a Singaporean boyfriend who also lives in Beijing. I think her boyfriend is about the same age as me, although we have not been formally introduced. I don't find Lina attractive; she's just a plain Jane, but she certainly has her ways with men. Her boyfriend pays the monthly rental, gives her monthly allowance, pays her school fees, and bought her a laptop. I really pity this Singapore brother. He spends so much money on Lina, and yet they only see each other once or twice a month. His family is over in Beijing. He can hardly find time to meet Lina because he has a routine job, and need to be back home every evening. Weekend is family day for him. To date Lina, he has to apply leave. Obviously he can't be applying leave every week.
Lina is very domineering to her boyfriend. She knows how to play mind games. She expects him to call her everyday. She's probably scheming to become his lawful wife. When they talk on the phone, she's quite hard on him and every word she used has double meaning. I don't understand why our Singapore brother wants to go through this agony. Maybe she's good in bed, or swallows his cum, I don' know. Worst of all, She sleeps with other men. My 亲爱的 has a cousin who is a military officer in Beijing. She calls him 哥哥。After 亲爱的 introduced her 哥哥 to Lina, Lina then slept with him. Maybe she needs his help, but she didn't expect that he would tell my 亲爱的 the incident. When he introduced another friend, who is a government officer in Beijing, to her, she slept with him too. She uses sex to exchange for favours. I don't know how our Singapore brother is going to take it if he knows that she's being screwed by other men behind his back. Just 2 weeks ago, Lina told my 亲爱的 that if one day we were to break up, she would take over me. I don't know what value I can bring to her, but I certainly won't fall for her. After all, I'm not a sophisticated person.
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