3 Years Later......

I've not contacted my qin ai de since we broke up 3 years ago. However, my love for her remains. It is very painful for me to find out that she is still in depression after 3 years of breakup. Oh dear...

Breaking Up

恩前想后，整个开始是我的错，我不该自私的让我心爱的女人都痛苦，老大有说过能接受你，但是她心里很难受，如果我把我的快乐建立在她的痛苦，我就不是人了。虽然你说你只是暂时的跟我在一起，你也在骗自己，有了我，你那里会去嫁人呢。我也想过跟老大离婚和你结婚，但是这条路如小姨说的是很难走。我们的年龄差距我孩子会觉坏这个家庭，你爸是否能接受，等等。我想通了，不要同时伤害两个女人。其实我是不能控制我对你的欲望，如果再继续通电话我的心会放不掉你，对不起，我又再一次伤害你，希望你明白，只恨我们生不对时，错过了机会。这次我们再也不联系了，你的生意也上了轨道，不须要什么帮忙。我希望你别忧郁，不要一个人躲在房里不见人，地球还在旋转，你也要给自己想想接下来要怎么过。这次回家，让你妈妈安排你去相亲，有了对象，你就会把这个伤害你两次的坏人忘了。我已经决定要做个好老公，好爸爸，希望你明白我的处境.

我的回忆不是我的

The Reunion

It has almost been one year I've not visited my 亲爱的. First, my job didn't require me to go to China; also I was so busy building up the business that I cannot find time to go on vacation. We have also cut down our daily phone calls. After awhile, I suggested to her that we should break up, since she is going 24, and it's about time that she should find a suitor. Also, I don't know when I would be going to Beijing again, so it wouldn't be fair for her to wait for me. She agreed, and for 3 months, we didn't call each other, but deep in our heart, we just couldn't let go. We started our phone calls once again, but pretended that it was just pure friendship. When I realized that her birthday was coming, I volunteered to celebrate her birthday, since she is still single.

I applied for one week's leave and went to Beijing. I didn't know how it would turn out. After I arrived Beijing airport, I called her. She asked me to fetch her from her home before we head to Great Wall Sheraton.

When I arrived her house in 望京, I waited almost 15 minutes before she came out. When we didn't see each other for almost a year, she still look as pretty as before, and doesn't look a year older.

After we checked into the room, we made love right away. The feelings we have for each other are still the same. 亲爱的 needed a nap as she was exhausted after her continuous orgasms, so I let her rest.



While she was sleeping, I bought a Peach cake for her.






亲爱的 paused for almost a minute for her birthday wishes.









YUMMY!!!!!

Heart In Virgina

I came across a female blogger's article, and she said that a woman's heart is in her vagina. She went on to explain that when she's sexually involved with a man, she tend to feel "in love" with him. The better he is in bed, the more "in love" she thinks she is. When she stopped being sexually involved with him, she realized that he is not her prince charming.

I don't know if this theory is applicable for all women. but if this is true, then it will just be a matter of time that my 亲爱的 will stop loving me. My new job doesn't allow me to travel to China, therefore I won't be able to sextify her regularly.

Since I'm not taking any chance, I will go to Beijing after my Bangkok meeting next week. I plan to stay with her for 5 days, and hopefully we can do 3 times a day, so in total we're going to do 15 times. This should be able to keep her heart in her virgina happy for a while, until my next trip.

A New Chapter

It has been a few weeks I've not blogged. I started my new job at the beginning of this month, and I can hardly find time to update this blog. It is still a regional sales job, except that the company doesn't require me to visit China. A friend said to me that I should take this opportunity to break off with my 亲爱的. What's the purpose of keeping a long distance relationship? I should just find a Thai girlfriend instead. Well, I am still very much in love with her and I don't think it is time yet. I still want to convince her to study in Singapore.

Although I was really busy since I started work, without fail I still called her over the phone　everyday. She said she missed me, and hope that we can meet up soon. The last time I met my　亲爱的　about a month ago in Bangkok. Since I have another trip to Bangkok in 2 weeks time, i will probably arrange for her to meet me in Bangkok again. She's not really impressed with Bangkok. She doesn't like the food, and the weather. At least the food in MK is still edible for her. I promised her that sex will make up for everything else.

Steven Chan and His China Mistress

Steven Chan, 48 years old, is my colleague who lives in Hong Kong. He joined my company sometime in January this year. During our first trip to Beijing, I introduced my 亲爱的 to him during one of the evening dinners. In fact, almost all my colleagues who have travelled with me to Beijing have met 亲爱的. It's not a secret that I have a China girlfriend.

One evening, I　called him while he was in Beijing. I overheard a baby crying, and jokingly asked him if he is playing "Happy Family" in Beijing. He immediately gave an excuse that it was a friend's child that was crying. Subsequently, I would use this joke on him, that he is a lucky man and have a 2nd family there.

In July this year, we travelled to Beijing together again. We made an appointment to have dinner in a Sichuan restaurant. Then Steven said that he's going to bring a friend along, and ask if we mind. Since we are sociable, we asked Steven to invite his friend along.

When Steven showed up, he was carrying a 6 months old baby girl. He introduced her as his daugther, with a big smile on his face. Well, Steven doesn't have any children in Hong Kong, so it must be a China production. His girlfriend is from Hunan, living in Beijing. It was an accidental pregancy. When they first discovered that she was pregnant, they hesitated whether to keep the baby. Since his girlfriend is already in her late 20s, they decided to keep it. Steven wasn't too positive about having a baby at that time, and thought that it would be a nightmare. I can't blame him. He didn't know the joy of being a father. Since his daughter was born, it was only happiness and excitement for them. Steven said that because of the baby, his relationship with his girlfriend is closer than before. I asked a realistic question: how much allowance is she getting every month? For being a fulltime mother, she receives a monthly allowance of RMB10,000. Since Steven has an apartment in Beijing, she is staying there and there is no rental expenses. How did he answer to her parents? Since her family lives in the countryside, her parents are simple people. He gave them money to refurbish the house, and that has settled the old folks.

Of course Steven's wife doesn't know about it. I don't know how long he is able to keep this secret, but eventually she will find out. Hong Kong women are not stupid, but since it is not uncommon for Hong Kong men to have China mistresses, maybe she will just have to accept the fact.

亲爱的,　after knowing Steven's little secret, was also tempted to have a baby with me. Well, she knows that this thought is immpossible for 2 reasons. First, her parents are not farmers and they would not approve her to do such things, even if I were to give them money. Second, I already have children, so I won't be excited about our baby.

A New Journey

Maria Robinson quotes "Nobody can go back and start a new beginning, but anyone can start today and make a new ending."

Two weeks ago, I was in Bangkok with my 亲爱的, and I broke her the news that I am going to quit my current job, and move on to a new job. It is still a regional sales role, except that I won't be covering Greater China region. We may not be able to see each other monthly, but I assured her that we will still see each other　at least 2 months once. She felt sad, and said "听到这个消息，我突然觉得很冷清" Honestly, I don't know if this is going to hurt our relationship, and only time can tell. Anyhow, The new job offers better pay, so I suggested to her if she wants to come over to Singapore to study, and I can support her financially. 亲爱的 said she would need some time to consider, as she needs to seek her parents approval. To lighten up things, I promised her that we will have another rendezvous in Chengdu before I start work. However, I just received an email from my new employer that I need to go for new hire training in October, so there isn't any holiday break for me. Looks like I will have to arrange our Chengdu trip again. I hope she's not going to feel sad when I break her the news.

The Perfect Smile

I have promised my 亲爱的 she's going for teeth whitening treatment in Bangkok for her 23rd birthday. Yesterday, we arrived Bangkok in the morning, and after we checked into the Westin Grande Sukhumvit, immediately we took the sky train to Saladaeng station. Perfect Smile dental clinic is located at the 4th floor of Thaniya BTS Wing building. At the Saladaeng station, the bridge is connected to Thaniya BTS building directly. www.perfectsmilethailand.com



The treatment is called Zoom! First, her teeth needs to be scaled and polished. I can't believe that this is the first time that she's doing that because when she saw the dental instruments, she behaved like a kid and insisted that I shouldn't leave the room. 亲爱的 said she doesn't visit the dentist unless she has a toothache.



After 15 minutes of scaling and polishing, 亲爱的 is ready for Zoom! It looks like her face is blasted with a ball of laser.



The procedure actually goes like this. Her mouth is first covered by a rubber mould to protect her gums and lips, and to ensure that her teeth are exposed at all times. Zoom whitening gel is then placed on her teeth, followed by 15 minutes of zoom light. She did this for 3 times, so the entire process is about 45 minute

Before treatment


After treatment


There is a slight improvement with the color shading. From now on, she's going to show off her white teeth to her friends. Doing Zoom! has side effect. After the treatment is done, she felt painful in her teeth. The tingling sensation lasted for the rest of the day.

ZTE MF636 3G Modem on Windows 7

I've just replaced my 3 years old Toshiba laptop with the Lenovo X201, and it was pre-installed with Windows 7 by my IT department. The first thing that came to my mind is to set up the 3G modem. Whenever I travel, I need to get internet access to work on my emails, and free Wi-Fi is not available everywhere. I am using a ZTE MF636, purchased from China.



After a few tries, it looks like the device driver doesn't support Windows 7. I uninstalled everything, copied the setup files into my local hard disk, right clicked on setup.exe and select properties, configure the compatiblity mode to Windows Vista SP1, run setup again. This solves my problem. Now that I can get access to internet again, it's time to give a call to my 亲爱的. She's probably still in bed, although it's already 3pm.

Happy 23 Birthday

亲爱的 and I were in Shanghai last week to celebrate her 23 birthday. We stayed at the Royal Le Meridien Hotel, at the Nanjing East Road, which is the "Walking Street". Although it was 40 degrees during the day, there were still a lot of people out in the street.



Being a Sichuanese, 亲爱的 couldn't take the heat. Instead, we stayed in the hotel with the air conditioning set at 19 degrees, and slept throughout the day.



Did we go to the Shanghai World Expo? This was the closst experience to the expo.



On her birthday, I told her that we should go out to get dinner. At 7pm, she started to make herself pretty.



亲爱的 didn't expect a lavish dinner for her birthday. Near the hotel, there was a Chongqing 公鸡堡 restaurant, and we ordered spicy chicken hotpot.





We bought a cake at the confectionary near the hotel. Back to the room, I prepared the cake, lit the candles, and 亲爱的 made her 23rd birthday wish. It was a long wish, 1 minute long.





She cut the cake, and we ate half of the cake. The other half was leftover for breakfast the next morning.





I didn't have any presents for her. Her presents would come later during our next Bangkok trip. 亲爱的 received several phone calls from her cousins and friends. She also called home to speak to her mum.



Honestly, it was really a boring week in Shanghai, but 亲爱的 didn't mind at all. She only wanted me to be by her side, after all we are already 老夫老妻.

Foreplay

亲爱的　doesn't like too much foreplay. She likes to get into the act as quickly as possible because she gets aroused easily. Everytime we make love, 2 minutes of passionate kissing will make her well lubricated. Ocassionally she would give me a good blow, but that is provided that we had a shower. Her blow job skills is only a 5/10. Even if can she go on and on, I can never do a CIM into her. Also, she doesn't like me to give her oral. She said it's not necessary as nothing can beat the real thing. She gets orgasms so easily and all she needs from me is a 30 seconds quick thrust.

亲爱的's Birthday Plan

Instead of celebrating 亲爱的's birthday in Bangkok, the plan has changed. We will meet in Shanghai instead. I still owe 亲爱的 a trip to Bangkok to visit the cosmetic surgeon, but we will do it in October instead. Shanghai is a nice place for photography. She has managed to slim down, so she's going to be my photography model in Shanghai. I suggested to her that if we have time we can visit the Expo 2010. 亲爱的 is not too excited about that because she doesn't like to walk for too long. We'll proababy spend just half a day visitng the pavilions, and the rest of the time in the hotel room making love. After all, it's her birthday so she deserves it.

非诚勿扰

I feel that I am becoming more and more Chinese. I love the hot and spicy Sichuan hotpot, the burning spicy Wuhan duck neck and feet, enjoy Chinese songs like 爱情买卖, 星月神话, and lately I've been addicted to the dating game show 非诚勿扰. This show is a production of the Jiangsu TV, and it's probably the most watched game show in China. Other than keeping myself entertained, I also learnt from this game show that not all Chinese girls are materialistic. They do not expect the 5Cs (Cash, Car, Condo, Credit Card, Country Club membership) from their boyfriends, as compared to their Singapore counterpart. These girls are mostly in their 20s, and are quite good looking. Maybe they realized that there is an imbalance ratio of men and women, they are very choosy in selecting the right guy to pair up. It is not money that they're going after. Even when the guy is only earning RMB1,500 per month, if she feels that he has a good character, she would pair up with him. I wonder how many couples actually continue to date after the game show.

Here is a glimpse of the show, but if you're interested to watch the rest, you can check out the website http://fcwr.jstv.com/

Singapore Tourist Visa

亲爱的's birthday is coming, and we're going to celebrate her birthday in Bangkok. My plan is to arrange for her to come to Singapore to stopover for 2 days, and then proceed to Bangkok for another 6 days. Since Thailand allows visa on arrival for Chinese citizens, she would only need to take care of the Singapore visa. 亲爱的 is a simple girl, and she's afraid of complications. Last year, she applied the Thailand Visa herself, which is supposedly a great task for her. Since I could actually apply an e-visa on her behalf from the Singapore Immigration and Customs Authority, she would rather I do it for her, then she do it herself at the Singapore Embassy in Beijing.

Maybe she's not so lucky after all. I received this acknowledgment from the ICA.



Now that she cannot come to Singapore, we'll have to change our plans. We'll postpone our Bangkok trip to September, and she can go to the Thailand embassy in Beijing to apply for the tourist visa. I still have to see her this month. Maybe we'll meet in Xiamen instead.

拜金女

拜金女 means Material Girl. With a average monthly salary of just 2,000 yuan, most girls living in Beijing won't be able to live a luxurious lifestyle. After deducting necessities like food, lodging, transportation, there is only a few hundred yuan left. It's certainly not enough to buy the Chanel No. 5, or the iPhone 4.

亲爱的 used to work as an office administrator when I first dated her. Her salary was about 1,800 yuan and at that time she did not stay with her aunt, but shared an apartment with her colleagues. She paid 800 yuan a month for the apartment. She realized that it was a waste of her time, so she quit the job, joined her aunt in the business, and move in to stay with her. I think this is more practical as she's just wasting her time if she were to continue working as an office administrator. 亲爱的 is earning about 4,000 yuan a month now. Not bad for a 22 years old girl in Beijing.

There are girls that can tolerate a simple lifestyle, but there are also others who are materialistic, and they would find other means to achieve their dreams. Having a rich husband is the ultimate way, but how by the time the guy is a high income earner, he's probably married. It would be easier for these girls to be mistresses for one or more men. Just last week, a Shanghainese girl added me in QQ, and we chatted. She's only 20 years old, and claimed that she likes to befriend older men. Although it was only the first time we chatted, she spoke like we have known each other for a long time. Anyway, here is a photo of her. I wonder how many men are subsidizing her living expenses?

Fox Spirits

Fox spirits are introduced in some Chinese legands, and they are usually potrayed as pretty, sexy but evil. For example in Feng Shen Bang story, King Zhou's concubine Daji is a 1,000 years old fox spirit in disguise, and her mission is to create havoc in the palace to end the Shang Dynasty. They appear in other tales, and there is one thing is common about fox spirits is that no men can withstand their temptation. Once men go to bed with the fox spirits, they would slowly lose their mind, and some might even die, after their soul have been sucked by the fox spirits.

Fox spirits are actually foxes. Somehow they learnt to practise black magic, and they continued to live, for hundreds and thousands of years. Their skills are so powerful and can disguise as young and pretty girls.

The legend continues to live. There are many fox spirits in today's modern society, especially in China. Girls that mesmerize guys, especially married guys, are labeled as Fox Spirits. Since I have been mesmerize by my 亲爱的, I called her Rabbit Spirit, since she's born in the year of the Rabbit. 亲爱的 likes to bite my cheek and my chin. One day, she's probably going to swallow me alive.

Addicted To Love

My last trip to Beijing was the 3rd week of May, and it's about time to pay a visit to my 亲爱的 again. 亲爱的　said that it is not necessary to visit her every month, especially when I am busy with my work. She's trying to hint to me that she is a very understanding girlfriend. Of course I told her that I missed her and I want to hug her, spend time with her, go dining with her, and make love to her. Yes, I need to relief my sexual urge, that is why I need to see her. I can't hold on any longer and I don't have an alternative because no other women can replace her. Maybe it's just chemistry, and she can really turn me on. It is both physical and emotional.

In Chinese folklore, fox spirits and skeleton spirits are disguised as pretty and sexy girls, and they have magical powers to tempt guys to go to bed with them, and the guys would end up dead because they are being eaten alive. Maybe 亲爱的 is a rabbit spirit, and has similar magical powers too. I hope she's not going to eat me this time, otherwise she won't get to enjoy continuous orgasms.

Double Eyelid Surgery

Like most Asians, my 亲爱的 have small teeny weeny eyes. She is born with a single lid appearance, but always prefer the features of a double eyelid. Of course double eyelid can result in having attractive eyes and bigger eyes.

Without any makeup, this is how her eyes look.


with makeup, here eyes are so pretty.


I've done some research on double eyelid surgery, and found that there are 2 main techniques for double eyelid surgery, stitching or cutting techniques. Stitching techniques make use of minimally invasive procedure to secure the eyelid skin to the tarsal plate, hence creating a crease in the skin. Cutting techniques rely on fat, muscle and skin removal in order to create an anatomical defect which causes the eyelid fold to become more apparent. I would prefer the stitching method, since it is less bloody, faster recovery, and reversible. The downside is that the eyelid fold is not going to be permanent.

Since we'll be going to Bangkok for her birthday in August, it will be nice if she can get her double eyelid surgery over there. Meanwhile, I'm checking witht the hospitals if they can do stitching method, and the price they charge.

Teeth Whitening

亲爱的 felt that her teeth is yellowish and unsightly, so she hope to go for teeth whitening treatment. I did Brite Smile a few years ago, and it was quite effective, so for her birthday present this year, I like to bring her to Bangkok for teeth whitening treatment. I did some research in the internet, and looks like Brite Smile is not the only treatment, and there is also Zoom! Both treatment is quite similar. Hydrogen Peroxide gel first applied on the teeth, and followed by shining a light directly on the teeth for about an hour.

I did some comparison and finally located the dental clinic that offer the cheapest treatment in Bangkok, the Perfect Smile Dental Clinic, that charges 9,000 Baht for Zoom! Teeth Whitening

I have to start planning for her birthday trip to Bangkok soon.

Miss You!

I received an SMS from 亲爱的 yesterday evening. She said

老公在日本好玩吧！几天没你电话很不习惯呢:-)想你了

I missed her too, and so I managed to find some time to return call to her this evening. Guess what? She was playing mahjong and I could hear the tiles, so we only had a few words. At least she knows how to keep herself occupied when I couldn't spend time with her.