好郁闷！

My 亲爱的 today told me she's very 郁闷. What is 郁闷? For Singaporeans, when we say that we are very "sian", it has the same meaning. Well, 亲爱的 is staying with her aunt (mum's younger sister) in Beijing, while her parents are in Chengdu. Her aunt has a male friend from 山西，a rich businessman who often go to Beijing for business trips. She told me that "那个山西的刚才打电话给我，说明天就来看我，叫我不要乱抛，就在家里等他". Whenever he is in Beijing, he will insist that my 亲爱的 sees him. He behaves like he has 包 my 亲爱的 and gives her ￥2,000 to ￥3,000 as 生活费 everytime。Sometimes, he will also bring her out for shopping. Once he bought her some jewellry. My 亲爱的 didn't like the jewellry, but he insisted that she keep them. So my 亲爱的accepted the gift, but later brought them to the pawn shop and exchange for cash. This man literally used money to bribe her soul. However, since she's not the typical PRC girl, she didn't fall for this money trap. She is usually bo chap when he's around, but still, she accepts his money. She's not that stupid to reject that. 谁会跟钱过不去？However, her aunt felt otherwise. Her aunt said that 山西的 is so nice to her, and she should oblige and accept his love, so that she can make more from him then from work. By the way, 山西的 is also a married man.

Does money equate to love? Most men think so, especially married men. I know of some friends that regularly TT money to their PRC girlfriends. 亲爱的 also has friends that often ask ￥￥ and gifts from their Singapore 老公。I'm the lucky one. I found a special girl that doesn't ask for money. She only wants me to spend more time with her in Beijing, to call her whenever I am free, to respect her, and most importantly, to love her.

Xiamen Discovery

I was in Xiamen this week for work. While 亲爱的 didn't join me there, we talked for at least 2-3 times a day over the phone. I made a mistake. I called her using the hotel phone, and also told her my room number. Guess what happend? She called me in the late evening to check if I was in the room. She claimed that she couldn't sleep and wanted to chat with me. First two nights were ok, but being a bachelor in Xiamen, it will be stupid of me to watch tv in my room, so for subsequent nights, I went party with friends. The next day, 亲爱的 would say..."昨晚你不在房间吗？去那里玩啦？" and I have to tell her that I went drinking with friends at the hotel bar and blah blah blah ...and she would say "没事的，你可以找个姑娘陪你。我了解男人有这个需要。" Well, how I hope my wife would say that to me. So co-incidently I had a casual chat with a female friend in Xiamen about relationship, and she share the same thoughts as 亲爱的. She felt that it is alright for her husband to have physical contact with other girls as men have such needs. She will only be upset if her husband is emotionally attached to another girl. I didn't know that China girls are so liberal with their husbands. No wonder more and more Singapore men are marrying China girls.

A Gift

My 亲爱的 is not the typical PRC girl. For the past 1 year when we were together, she didn't ask for 生活费 or 礼物 from me. She is really different, that is why I enjoy her company. Even when we shop in Beijing, it is really window shopping, and she did not insist me to buy clothes or jewellry for her. When we eat out, we go for local restaurents like those in 鬼街. For the coming trip, I intend to give her a present. I was in West Mall yesterday, and I bought a 18k white gold neck chain and pedant from CITIGEMS. I thought she's going to like this. Doesn't cost me much. Maybe little gifts like this is going cheer her up.

男人多情--女人专情

曾有人说过：男人是多情和长情的。而女人则是专情与绝情。
男人可以在他已和一个喜欢的人在一起的时候，在他的心里说不定还有一个或更多的“她”存在。因为他多情。男 人可以在多年以后心中还在掂记着他的女朋友现在过得是否安好。因为他长情。

女人却不一样。当她和一个喜欢的人在一起的时候，她所想的就是他，她所做的也就是为了他。这时，即使有一个 比现在的更好的男人出现，她也不会放弃他的。因为她的专情。而当她决定放弃他的时候，那就是说一切都没有余 地了。因为她绝情。

男人，天生就是多情的。只是，他会对某一个人最长情。但这个人成为他妻子的可能性几乎为零。女人，天生就是 专情的。只是，她会对某一个人最绝情。但这个人成为她的仇人的可能性几乎是零。

男人和女人真的很不一样。当男人知道以前的女朋友现在过得不好，他会去安慰她，而当女人知道以前的男朋友现 在过得不好时，大部分肯定不会去安慰他。

对男人来说，女人是要来保护的，而他则成了个大英雄。对女人来说，男人是要来依赖的，而她则成 了个小鸟儿。

女人不明白怎么男人可以有这么多的心去记着那么多的情。而男人不明白怎么女人可以这么决心的忘 了一段情。

其实，男人对你说分手的时候应该还有余地的。因为他多情，也因为他长情。女人对你说分手的时候那就是没有余 地了。因为她专情，也因为她绝情。

就好比，男人和男人之间爱搭肩膀以示友好，而女人和女人之间则爱手拉着手以示友好。相对来说，男人在开心和 不开心的时候都喜欢大笑。而女人呢，在开心的时候她会开怀而笑，在伤心的时候她会伤心的痛哭。男子汉，流血 不流泪。女人呢？如果她在伤心的时候还满面笑容的话，那别人肯定会以为她有问题了。

一个女人要决心和你分手的时候，你就不要妄想可以再把她的人和心留下。一个女人是不会轻易的把分手二字说出 口的。但，一个男人说要和你分后的时候，你还可以努力一把，说不定你们还会有机会。很简单。就是多情和长情 ，专情与绝情之分。

在一个女人全身心的投入到一段感情中去的时候，那她的心是牢不可破的。但一个男人全身心投入到一段感情中去 的时候，却还是可以有间隙让另一个她有机可乘。

当女人决定，她要离开他的时候，那这段情就真的完蛋了。不要问为什么，这个结果是必然的。当男人决定，他要 离开她的时候，那她还可以补救的，未必完蛋。同样的，这个结果是必然的

心痛

This week, I've been seeing this word in my SMS more than I ever see this word in my entire life. My 亲爱的 said she's not going to see me anymore, despite all my sweet and honey words. She said that every night when she recalled the good times we had together, she felt heart pain. She also said that I won't understand her feelings, which is actually true. When I spent time with her, I gave her with all the respect that she could deserve, and made sure that she could achieve multiple orgasm, so what's the problem dude? Doesn't she like to be treated that way? Actually I'm going to Xiamen this Sunday, and has invited 亲爱的 to join me, but she's the 铁石心肠 one and decided not to go. Ok, I've run out of ideas to persuade her, so looks like I'm going to be alone there. Worse, my colleague just told me that the hotel that we're staying is haunted! Where can I get another companion in such a short notice? Meantime, I'm going to check out this song to understand what is really 心痛。

Fortune Telling

My friend Allen visits the master in Milin Buddhist Centre http://www.milinbuddhistcentre.com/ on a regular basis to seek guidance. Allen runs an IT business and just like any other businessman, he is superstitious and needs some kind of supernatural power to help him to be successful. This afternoon, he has made an appointment to see the master, and I decided to join him. Right now, I'm going through a mid-career crisis, and maybe some guidance from the master would help me to decide if I should stay on with my current job, or to move on to something else. I asked a very straight forward question: how is my career going to be; how is my business going to be. The master asked for my DOB, and read both my palms. Went straight to the point to answer my 2 questions, but that is beside the point here. He said that I need to have a lady from the North to help me to be successful. So I asked him, What? A female business partner? "Nope", he said, "a girl friend, but be careful, don't get her pregnant, else you'll be in trouble". With this remark, it strikes me if I am fated to be with 亲爱的, and if 亲爱的 is going to be my lucky star.

QQ

I've been pestering my 亲爱的 to install MSN on her office PC, but she doesn't have the slightest clue on how to do that. I gave up that idea, and decided to install QQ onto my laptop. QQ is the most popular free instant messaging software in Mainland China, in fact everyone who uses the computer would have an account. So does my 亲爱的。I downloaded the Chinese version from http://in.qq.com/ and applied for an ID. We made an appointment yesterday afternoon to chat in QQ. Since she doesn't owned a PC, she has to go to the internet cafe to as it was a non-working day yesterday. She paid RMB3 per hour for the service. I plugged in my webcam, microphone and headphones, and eagerly waited for her to go online. The next moment, I saw my 亲爱的 appeared on my QQ friend list, and we got connected. I was so happy to see her on the webcam. I really missed her.

I tried to do voice, but it didn't work. Maybe the great firewall of China doesn't allow voice communication. For the next 2 hours, I have to type out chinese characters in hanyu pinyin in the chat window, which I am quite good at that anyway. While we were chatting, 亲爱的told me that she was also chatting with few other friends at the same time. I was quite touched when she told me that she has justed chatted with a Guangzhou friend, and she told her "我爱上了一个不应该爱的人" and her friend replied "我了解你的痛苦". After 2 hours, 亲爱的said she needed to visit her aunt, so the fun has to end. She waved at me in the webcam, and in returned, I waved at her. I look forward to another QQ chat with her soon.

Long Distance Call

I've been on the phone 20 minutes everyday with 亲爱的 since I returned from Beijing. Although i used Singtel 019 service for our conversation, still 23 cents per minute, and that works out to be $5 per day. Being a tech savvy geek, I decided to set up SIP on my Nokia N96. I am a user of Starhub's Pfingo for a year, and usually used that to call home when I am on the road. I did some reading and found that I can also set up SIP using Pfingo service on my mobile phone, and whenever my phone has access to WLAN, I can call internationally through Pfingo service. Calling to China is only 2 cents per minute. Wow, that is huge savings. Accessing WLAN is not difficult in Singapore even when I am not at home as there are free hotspots like Wireless@SG, Macdonald's, Starbucks, etc. Finally I did my first SIP call to my 亲爱的 on my N96 after 2 hours of R&D on a quiet Saturday afternoon...

Tour Guide

Last week me and my 亲爱的 visited the 恭王府 as we have nothing better to do after morning sex. This place was orginally constructed for 和珅 during the Qianlong reign in the late Qing Dynasty. If you've watched enough Chinese TV series, you'll probably know who this person was. When we were there, we saw a few tour guides bringing groups of toursits into the Prince Gong's mansion. We decided to join in one of the groups, so that we can get some good explanation of this historical site. 亲爱的 thought that maybe she would also like to be a tour guide as the job seems very interesting. Right now, she's working as a typist in a small local firm. My 亲爱的 actually quit from her massuer job 4 months ago after the police started to clean up Beijing for the Olympics Games. Through her Aunt's boyfriend recommendation, she found this boring job. Well, I told her, if she's keen to be a tour guide, she has to be confident in herself in order to become one. A tour guide requires leadership skills in order to manage the tour group. So I promise her that I will check out with my contacts if they have any lobangs or knowledge with this career. When I spoke to her yesterday regarding this, she said that her friend commented that she's not suitable to become one, so she will drop this idea. I think that's bullshit. Thanks for being a pessimistic friend. This morning, I searched the web and found a tour guide training school in Beijing. I copied the phone number and gave to my 亲爱的 today. I told her to call up this number and enquire. At least she should ask the school the various courses that they offer, whether they will also help the students to find jobs in tour agencies, and the expected pay package as a tour guide. After hearing this, 亲爱的 said 这么麻烦，还是不打了。Well, I told her that making the phone call doesn't take too much time. At least she will get a good perspective from the consultant. She promised that she will make the call tomorrow. Let's see .......

Afternoon Phone Call

Hasn't been hearing my 亲爱的's voice for 3 days, so decided to give her a call in the afternoon. Was surprised to hear that her ringtone is Faye Wong's 執迷不悔。I thought she's expressing her feelings through this song. Check out the MTV.

Asked why she selected this ringtone, and she said that it was done randomly. In fact she has no idea about this song. I'll probably get her a copy of the mp3 and the lyrics. Getting the mp3 over to her is a problem until she can set up msn on her PC.

She doesn't sound so moody today. We chatted for 20 minutes until is a 5 minutes past 1, and she needed to continue her 2nd half of the day.

I Miss You

I spent 5 days in Beijing to be with my 亲爱的 last week, and returned to Singapore on Sunday. Instead of calling her, we had an SMS conversation.

Me: 亲爱的 我到达新加坡了 在飞机上 睡了一觉 现在精神多 如果以后不见面的话 不知你还会听我电话 我希望能每天听到你甜蜜的声

亲爱的：这几天折腾的有些厉害.本来月经一礼拜后才来.结果今天就来了,感觉很不舒服.现在躺在床上睡觉呢!的

Me: 在网上搜索 原来高潮能带动月经 你这两天休息就没事了 声音还没复原 明天才跟你电话

亲爱的：知道了.她们让我多喝点开水,可能到明天就没事了.你也不要担心我

The next day

Me: 今天身体怎样 有没有上班 如果有机会安装msn 我的帐号是 xxxx@hotmail.com

亲爱的：我今天没上班.感觉还是有些肚子疼,刚刚才醒过来;觉得全身乏力.昨晚没有睡好,失眠了好几个小时,心里乱七八遭想了很多.脑子里99%想的都是我们在一起的几天;咬着被角偷偷的哭了,心真的好痛好痛.

Me: 我也想念着跟你在一起的日子 刚才开会时看到你的短信 那一克把开会主题忘了 幸好同事提醒我 现在了解你那晚说的话 为什么以后不在见面 原来离别后是痛苦的

亲爱的：心真的很痛.希望这样的痛不要干扰我太久,不然我都没办法正常生活了.

Me: 好好的休息 明天才给你打电话 我每天都给你打电话

亲爱的：自己都搞不清楚为什么心情会这样的低落;就像今天北京的天气阴阴暗暗的.不过相信明天就会好起来的.

Me: 去找晴格格打麻将 就不会胡思乱想

亲爱的：你不用担心我.相信会很快整理好的;晚上会去小姨家坐坐,听她们说说笑话就能好许多吧!
Me: 恩 那我就放心了

Me: 你在小姨家吗 我在欣赏你的照片 越看越觉得你漂亮 晚安