Possessive Relationship

The feelings of falling in love is simply magical. You're mesmerized by her, and cannot leave her alone for even one minute. You want to see her everyday, talk on the phone for hours, and in between, cannot stop thinking of her. However, as you're getting comfortable with her, the possessiveness mellows down. You know when to get serious with work, and when to have fun with her.

After two years of dating my 亲爱的, our relationship is still going strong, especially when it is a long distance relationship. She's certainly not a possessive lover. I don't receive many calls or SMS from her. She knows that I have to work during the day, and spend time with my family in the evening. It is always me that initiate the call to her: during my lunch break, while waiting for the next flight, or driving on the road to meet the next customer. She doesn't insist that I have to go Beijing every month to see her, or extend my stay in Beijing when it is time for me to return. She doesn't feel insecure as we have developed the trust needed in a healthy relationship.

What if the opposite happens? If the emotional attachment increases as the relationship develops, then insecurity develops, and this will create problems in the relationship. If your lover keeps on sending you messages every minute, knowing you are not there to receive it, then it is time to panic. This is the first sign of an obsessive lover. If due to any reason you are not able to pick up her call and she looses her temper on it, then definitely she is not in the right frame of mind.

Why should you suffer from a possessive lover? Even if you want to break up with her, she may still continue to call you up and tell you how much she misses you. Sometimes she even go to the extent of tracking you down and following you everywhere. But if you stand your ground, sooner or later this is going to end and then once more you can be a free bird.